Salesmanship for Artists and Writers: The Inner Skills

A goal always on an artist’s and writer’s mind is to generate consistently high-quality work, and a continuing question he/she wrestles with is “how can I do that?” Answering that question is bottom-line, and it’s a complicated question that creative people are trying to answer all their careers, and is one whose success in answering distinguishes one from another. Shakespeare produced better text than anyone else; Michelangelo better art; Mozart better music. But creating high quality work is just one of a writer’s or artist’s skills among many others. It’s naïve to think that the best artist is necessarily the most successful artist. To succeed, the writer, painter, actor, composer must accomplish much more than generate excellent work.

Professional artists and writers have careers to manage and responsibilities and expenses. Food must be put on the table. A life of financial risk and the threat of going broke can keep them on their toes and motivate them or it can be paralyzing. To many writers, artists, and performers, their work is not a hobby and is not just a craft and not just an art, but a hard-nosed, deadly serious, ferociously competitive war of survival requiring the skills of the showman and unabashed, unapologetic self-promoter. Those are roles that seem unnatural to many creative people and make them uneasy and unsure of themselves.

color-palette-207082_640Inhibitions are hard to hide, and research and everyday experience alike bear out that many writers—many artists; many creators of all types, many “inner-directed” people in general—are haunted by them, and know better than anyone that they are, and don’t want to be, and wish they weren’t. And everyone on the globe—the most powerful, the most famous, the most accomplished–is inhibited sometimes. It will be impossible to reach your creative goals if your inhibitions are powerful. They are impediments that can prevent even the most talented and gifted writers and artists from achieving the successes they are aiming for. And that can happen, and I’m sure it does, more than we realize or care to admit.

Working in solitude—the lifestyle of the creator–is a way of hiding from inhibitions because inhibitions involve interactions with other people. In fact, one of the main reasons creative people have chosen a creator’s life rather than a more typical life is to be able to work alone, secluded, sheltered, untouched, and away from other people; hidden from the world. But when writers and artists come out of hiding into the clear light of day, so to speak, some essential tasks require that they do something about their inhibitions—give in to them, or overcome them.

When my first major book was published, I was surprised to learn that not every author is sent by the publisher on a publicity tour to promote their book because they “don’t come across” to audiences, and that, it seems to me, is a direct result of inhibitions. One publisher jokingly asked if I would go on tour to promote other of their author’s books; so many writers didn’t come across. Also, every writer and every artist of every type eventually realizes that talent and skill are not enough to guarantee success, though that would be the artist’s ideal world, but that you’d better learn the skills of marketers and salesmen, skills that inhibited people do not perform well. But to survive, they must learn to. Or they may perish, giving up completely, or will go only so far, and will reach a plateau, and will not reach the career peak they otherwise could. All creative work involves showmanship and salesmanship.

hands-545394_640When I was a business consultant for many corporations, I trained hundreds of people to be high-excelling marketers and sales people, and time and again witnessed before my eyes the growth of awkward and inhibited, tongue-tied, self-doubting people into fluent, persuasive, uninhibited people confident and comfortable with themselves. Such a transformation is possible for anyone. Every artist’s and writer’s skill, including marketing and selling—foreign though they may seem–is learnable.

After reading my Fighting to Win: Samurai Techniques for Your Work and Life, which lays out practical strategies for living a more vigorous assertive (and hopefully happier) life, a shy, soft-spoken, self-doubting artist/illustrator called me and said she wished she had a samurai like those she had seen in the book to help her market her work (which had won awards) to galleries, clients, magazines, and publishers, and I said, “You don’t need another person. Become a samurai yourself.” She took that to heart and acquired marketing and sales skills coupled with her new self-confidence, and now her lovely work seems to be everywhere.

The Basic Problem

People weighed down with inhibitions don’t express their genuine personalities. That’s the basic problem. Inhibitions such as shyness, self-consciousness, dreading new experiences, feelings of inferiority and inadequacy, guilt that’s out of proportion to the event that caused it, feeling ill at ease with strangers and in social situations, difficulty getting along with others, and excessive modesty are psychological obstacles that affect writers, and artists of all kinds time and again. These “maladies” are based on being too concerned with how you’re coming across, of what people are thinking of you, or trying too hard to impress others. Inhibitions result in excessive caution and carefulness.

Some people aren’t inhibited enough. You probably know some. They’re too impulsive, too rash, too inconsiderate, too outspoken, too hard-headed, too much of a boring windbag everyone wishes would shut up. But the more general and serious problem is being too inhibited.

Many specialists believe that some inhibitions are genetic. But it’s a myth that once your genetic blueprint is established at birth it is set forever. I know a sculptor who was shy all her life, but decided at the age of thirty she wasn’t going to be shy anymore, so she stopped being shy, just stopped. Many inherited traits can be changed by changing behavior.

Strategies for Conquering Inhibitions: Be Yourself; No One Else

  • Realize that inhibitions are not a fate. You can get rid of inhibitions.
  • Be indifferent to the reactions of others. There is such a thing as a healthy and liberating disregard for the opinions of others. Don’t stop to think of how they are judging you. Don’t worry what they’ll think of you if you do or say X. Just do and say X. Don’t give a damn what they think.
  • Don’t exaggerate your embarrassment. Why are we so ready to say that this embarrassed me or that embarrassed me, even over the silliest things. When you’re feeling embarrassed ask yourself if what is embarrassing is all that important in the grand scope of things. It isn’t.
  • Overcome self-consciousness. Self-consciousness is really other-consciousness. To believe that every eye is on you is an error. Most people could hardly care less what you look like, what you’re wearing, what you’re saying, and what you’re doing. They’re preoccupied with what they look like, and what they’re wearing, saying, and doing.
  • Never try for a contrived effect. You’ll rarely go wrong if you’re sincere. The people who make the best impression are the very people who aren’t trying to make a good impression. You can’t be fooled by a phony for very long. For example, job interviewers encounter legions of applicants who behave the same as everyone else. Then an applicant appears who lets his or her sincerity come through. She stands out and the interviewer is impressed, and she gets the job. If you’re sincere you’ll favorably impress people, even if you’re not trying to impress them.
  • Be like a baby; be authentic. A baby isn’t pretentious, artificial, or superficial, but just what he or she is. A baby expresses honest feelings and isn’t the least bit inhibited.
  • Be more spontaneous. When you’re anxious about a situation, your spontaneity flies out the window. When you’re spontaneous–with a friend over a beer for example, or your family around the table–you’re not on guard for fear of making a mistake. Your spontaneity gives you courage.
  • Be fast. Do what you’re thinking of doing or saying before an inhibition appears.
  • Speak with greater verve, and louder than you normally would. Inhibited people often speak softly and in a monotone. Raising your voice and speaking in a louder and more energetic voice can free you from social inhibitions.
  • Look people in the eye. Don’t avert your eyes.
  • Be “larger than life.” You might have noticed that people who are self-confident and persuasive literally seem larger. Stand up straight and expand your chest as an exercise. Develop the habit of physical expansiveness.
  • When talking with others stand closer than you think you should, be physically involved, and be friendly. Particularly persuasive and socially comfortable people tend to stand a little closer than most people do. Gesture, smile, move your hands and your eyes. If you expect the other person to like you and you behave accordingly—as though they already do– you will be proven right in almost every instance.
  • Recognize your right to be imperfect. If we were perfect our lives would be very dull– we would be very dull– and we would still find something in ourselves to complain about. And others would always find something in us to complain about too. We shouldn’t think we have to be perfect to be worthwhile.
  • Don’t second-guess yourself. Inhibited people wonder if they did the right thing: “Maybe I shouldn’t have said that. Maybe I hurt her feelings. I probably should have put it differently,” when more than likely the person spoken to has no memory of what was said or didn’t think it was all that significant.
  • Forgive yourself– for making a mistake, for being too timid, or for saying the wrong thing or making a stupid remark. Perhaps you felt awkward or were intimidated, or self-conscious, or were inauthentic and insincere, etc. Forgive yourself. Then get right back into action and be genuine, be yourself, no one else.

 

© 2015 David J. Rogers

Order Fighting to Win: Samurai Techniques for Your Work and Life eBook by David J. Rogers

Fighting to win Amazon

Click on book image to order from Amazon.com

or

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/fighting-to-win-samurai-techniques-for-your-work-and-life-david-rogers/1119303640?ean=2940149174379

 

Order Waging Business Warfare: Lessons From the Military Masters in Achieving Competitive Superiority

Waging Business Warfare812sCY9edLL._SL1500_

Click on book image to order from Amazon.com

or

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/waging-business-warfare-lessons-from-the-military-masters-in-achieving-competetive-superiority-revised-edition-david-rogers/1119079991?ean=2940149284030

 

 

 

 

 

Advertisements

6 Comments

Filed under Artists, Blocks to Action, Boldness, Business Strategies and Tactics, Creativity Self-Improvement, Developing Talent, Human Potential and Achievement, Goals and Purposes, Salesmanship, Success

6 responses to “Salesmanship for Artists and Writers: The Inner Skills

  1. Dear David, This post brought a tear to my eye when you described that shy, inhibited person, I knew her once, I was her, but why do I have tears streaming down my face, why do I mourn the loss of that part of me that no longer seems to exist? There was safety and comfort and a predictability about life, but now the doors have been flung open and there is a whole new world to experience. I feel the wind on my face and I smell the scent of roses in the air, I stand at the precipice and I’m not afraid tot jump. I believe in each of us exists the shy person and the confident person and your excellent strategies will allow people to tap into their well of innate confidence. But occasionally, such as today when I read your post, I can’t help but feel that the shy person that I knew so well is wandering around somewhere lost, confused and frightened, and to honour that person who kept me safe all those years I now forge on and create and share something beautiful for the both of us to show that the struggle has been worthwhile.

    Like

    • davidjrogersftw

      Michelle, I am stunned and flabbergasted and floored by the beauty and power of your expression. How is it possible, I wonder, for someone to plumb so deep inside herself? I wondered too, if we all have little past selves existing inside us, some part of us that we are better off without, but that we nevertheless mourn the way you do that girl? woman? you once were. I think we do. Thanks so much for the comment, and my best to you, friend.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Hi David, I know that shy, inhibited person as well, and just like you said, I decided to stop being shy and voila! I was no longer shy :). Okay maybe I made it sound easier than what it actually was, but still, at the root of it was a decision. This kind of self consciousness where we think everyone is thinking, looking and studying our every actions minutely is in my opinion emotional immaturity. For me leaving my small town and moving to the city came with the blessed realisation that nobody cares. Oh the bliss! My shyness just kind of evaporated after that. Mind you, I am an introvert and networking / sales is like a little hell to me, but genuine connection between like minded people is wonderful. I think that’s where marketing is headed. At the heart of it, that’s what this blog is I suppose – an authentic way of letting people know who I am and getting to know like minded people who I wouldn’t otherwise meet.

    Like

    • davidjrogersftw

      Sara, I want to let you know that it makes me feel happy to look at the screen and see your face and to learn more about your overcoming shyness–and to learn more about you–that you lived in a small town. So much progress in all areas of our lives is based on doing what you did: throwing a stake in the ground and at last making a decision–“I don’t want to be that way anymore.” Owning my own company, I did a lot of selling, which at first I didn’t like. I went to a big corporation to talk about services I could provide and liked the people there and had a good talk with them. When I got up to leave they told me “We have so many people come here to sell us something and we are very selective who we work with, but you’re the best salesman we’ve ever seen.” But I hadn’t been “selling” at all, just having a nice sincere, honest conversation about something that would benefit us both a great deal. Then I realized that that was the definition of good selling–honest, sincere talk about mutual gain–nothing devious, nothing dishonest, just honesty and sincerity. I worked with that company for years and looked forward to seeing the friends I made there. Thanks for the comment. Looking forward to your next post.

      Liked by 1 person

  3. David, I’m going to have to re-read your post a few times because there were so many good points that I’m pinned to the ground! I used to be horribly shy and I blamed it on my parents…we weren’t socialized at all. Nobody ever visited us and we were discouraged from bringing friends around because my dad was an artist who worked at home and he wanted to be left alone. I overcame a lot of my shyness years ago when I started selling my work at art fairs and craft markets. I forced myself to be more forward with people. But to this day I have to remind myself to look people in the eyes when I’m talking with them. I’m on the brink of letting it all hang loose with some videos that I’ve only shared with a few people. They’re pretty crazy though and have nothing to do with my career but in them I drop all my inhibitions and I can’t tell you how good it feels! I’m still struggling with the thought of “what will people think?” but I think I’m going to have to go for it, and to hell with what people think…I’ve got to be meeee! (breaks into song)

    Like

    • davidjrogersftw

      Peggy, your comments are just so honest and so well written too. I can picture you as the shy littel girl you were. We would have made such a pair because I was a shy little boy. From what I am today, no one would guess. I identify so much with what you say. Even our families were alike. I’m like your father in that I like solitude and peace when I work. But I’m different in that I loved it when my four children brought their friends home and we all could talk. When my kids grew up and moved away I missed them, and I really did miss their friends too.

      It’s very telling that even now you have trouble looking people in the eye–tells me you have a way to go yet. But that only illustrates a belief I have:I think that no matter how completely one sheds their shyness a tiny core of it always remains and pops up from time to time, almost, it seems to me a kind of reminder of the person you once were. What do you think?

      I’d love to see your uninhibitead videos and see you nutty and free, and I’m happy for you that you made them. More power to you. I hope to talk to you again soon. I love your artwork and wish I had even a fraction of your artistic talent. I love cats too, love it when they fall asleep on my shoulder. I particularly like your colorful cats.

      Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s